Ok. So this whole "positive thinking" thing is causing quite the stir. So now I have to think about the people who put all their trust and faith in god. Isn't this the same thing as positive thinking? If I were to believe in god and say that I leave everything up to him, is that somehow better than saying I'm going to think positively about this? (Let me point out that I never for one second thought that if I just thought positively about this that it would lead me to my BFP). I dunno I guess I just never hear too many people being chastised for putting their faith in god. Why? Do all these people know for a fact that there is indeed a god? Well butter my ass and call me biscuit! I didn't know that! Why is it more acceptable for people to put all their faith in god but not for people to simply try to think positively. Who am I hurting by trying to make this shitty situation a little more pleasant for me and especially for John. (I'm sure he loves all my negativity about the situation). The only good than can come from this is it might bring my stress level down a notch or two and correct me if I'm wrong but I know stress isn't going to help me in any aspect of my life, not just with TTC. (As if being 23 and not being able to conceive like all others my age isn't stressful enough). So I guess if I were to believe in god, it would all be ok.
P.S. My goodbye post got deleted. Guess since I wasn't part of the "clique" I don't matter. I would not recommend WebMD to anyone.
Monday, January 7, 2008
What About "Mr. Almighty"
Posted by Jenn at 4:25 PM
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Jenn, your right. Whether you believe in God or not, the negative energy of those around you or that comes from within won't help you in any aspect of your life. Just thinking positively with no action may not be the best route but simply being negative, sarcastic and plain old sad never helped anyone either. I am not one to mince words. That Nancy person on the WebMD boards is bad energy. Certainly not an individual who is the type of individual anyone should surround themselves with.
I really want this for you. Again, I know how frustrating it is. I started trying at 28 and thought that pregnancy was an easy to accomplish natural thing. Boy was I wrong. If I have learned anything over the years, I have learned that living your life as a positive person with positive thoughts followed up by action is far more fulfilling than going around spreading hate, angst, sarcasm and darkness in the world. That kind of life is just a miserable one to live. Just like Nancy's sad life seems to be.
I am proud of you (even though I don't know you) for taking a chance on trying a different road. There is no one answer to any of this. BUT, the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Clearly, the way you viewed life before (according to what I understand from your post) wasn't working for you. Why not try something else.
Whether or not you conceive, and I certainly want you to, I hope for you that you will be able to find peace in whatever life has in store for you. When I got to that place in my life, conception happened. Granted I am a decade older than you so it took me a while but I eventually got there and I have to tell you my life is much more fulfilling and full of hope now than ever before.
Take care of you.
Joanne
Thank you Joanne. You said exactly what I was trying to say when you said ' living your life as a positive person with positive thoughts followed up by action...' That's what I was trying to say. I need to reinforce the actions I am doing with positive vibes...babydust if you will. Lol. Isn't that what babydust is anyway? Positive reinforcement? If someone says that, it is exactly what they are doing. So I guess people on the message boards shouldn't send anyone any babydust for risk of not being realistic.
And you're right if the way I was doing things wasn't working, what's wrong with changin things up a bit? It's not like I'm trading in medical advice for some whack job's advice. I'm just changing my outlook. I'll still continue to go to my doctors and take the medicine they give me, but is it so wrong to have a little bit of hope? I don't think it is. It's definitely better than walking around before the cycle is even over going 'it's not like I'm pregnant anyway'. The risk to this is it might be a little bit harder to see that BFN when I had that extra hope that this could be it, but, that is a risk I am willing to take.
Thank you so much for your words, Joanne. They really meant a lot to me. Oh and you quoted a line from my favourite movie. 28 Days ~the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.~ I love that.
Again, thank you and take care. :)
Oh and I liked your post about the moderators being in a clique. It certainly does seem that way. I mean my good bye post said nothing at all about what was going on. It simply said I was leaving for certain reasons and if anyone wants to know why to read my blog. She did the same thing but actually TALKED about the situation and said to read her blog and she doesn't get deleted. I am SO glad I left.
Jenn,
The lady that posted baby dust to begin with never said the words "relax and it will happen", on any of her posts or replies. Nancy is going around not speaking the truth. All she said over and over is to think positive, and that she believes in science, doctors and treatments, combined with positive thinking. You are taking the right steps to think positive about everything in your life. Nancy's reality is that she thinks that she is the authority on infertility and everyone around her needs to act submisive or else. Yesterday one of her groupies, Lisa "hisangelface" came to 2nd tri to address the lady who thinks positive. She posted on Nancy's blog that she "would see what she could do". Well, she came to the 2nd tri board and addressed the lady that thinks positive on a separate post. Please be aware that she got slammed by everyone. Not only did everyone support the positive thinking person, but many of them had bad experices on the TTC board and specially with Nancy. Over and over they said that she and others in her groupie were bitter to the point of making everyone miserable, and unable to be happy for other's joy. That if they had been trying to get pg for 3 years, they had not paid their dues, or got results faster than they should, etc., etc. They all said how bitter that board is, and how the positive thinking lady did not deserve or did anything to earn the attacks from Nancy. I read all of the posts throughout the weekend, her blog your posts and your blogs. Nancy's perception of kindness is hateful.
That is pretty much why I left that board. Nancy's word is god (so she thinks) and you are right, if you haven't put in more than a year or 2, she thinks you have no right complaining. (Believe me, we all know how long she's been trying. Every sentence practically begins with, I've been trying for 35 cycles, even though that's the combined totally since she started. It's like she just says that so people only see the 35 not the 16)I've tried to get along with her and she even said she was sorry when I hit the year mark the other day. However, that's just her going through the motions. I know just says things to cover her own ass so no one can call her bitter. On BZ when one of the girls are hurting there we all hurt. I truly feel like I "know" those girls. Oh yeah and the added bonus is there are NO arguements. I've seen so many stupid spats on the WebMD board it's amazing. I've never seen such angry women. I've been trying longer than some of those girls and I'm not that bitter.
I did see Lisa's post over on the 2nd Tri board. I don't see what she had to do with it at all (other than being Nancy's groupie). Lexy was just trying to be nice, I know this. Everyone just got pissy cuz Nancy did. I do understand where Nancy was coming from, but it's the way she says things that piss people off. Even on a message board there are nicer ways to say things.
I don't want to drag this situation out anymore but I just had to get my opinion out. I think I'm going to keep track of the bitchfests on that board, I'm sure there will be plenty more and I'm SURE that Nancy will be involved.
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