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Friday, January 11, 2008

I Refuse To Label Myself

I've come to the decision I refuse to label myself as an infertile. That is all I see women doing these days. It's not like it's great to be infertile. There are so many things I'd rather label myself as than infertile. I dunno I guess I just don't see the point in labeling myself as that. It's not gonna get me pregnant any faster and I hate fake sympathy (which is exactly what most people get when they tell strangers they are an infertile). It just seems to me that the more and more I delve into this journey of trying to get pregnant, I've come across all kinds of women trying to conceive who are deemed infertile but there seem to be only two kinds. The women who know they are infertile but don't let it define who they are and the women who know they are infertile and let it consume their lives. Now, I know it is hard not to let this consume our lives. Especially when we have to time when we have sex, have ultrasounds all the time etc. but it doesn't' mean you have bitch and whine every second of everyday and say I'm an infertile blah blah blah and let it define who you are cuz you think it will get you a little sympathy.

I just don't understand why so many women let it define who they are. Is it for attention? Are they the same women who spent most of their lives crying wolf, if you will, and making the worst out of every situation just for a little bit of attention? Now I know I've *only* been trying for a year and there are a lot of women who have been trying longer than I have (and essentially been through a lot more) but it's still all the same. It sucks to be infertile but I am just that...infertile. Not an infertile, just infertile.

Infertile: it describes what I am but it does NOT define who I am.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hmmm. I can see your positive thinking and new attitude already working. Small things like this, not letting a word define you, or a situation mold you... that makes you a stronger person.
Why does anyone let any word define them? Why does everyone have to fit into a freaking mold? LOL great. now I think I might have to go blog about it. :)
I love your new attitude. I am sure it will help you in the long run and let me tell you, when you force yourself to see the good in things and situations, it soon becomes habit. Then before you know it, you are a "puppydogs and rainbows" type of person.
LMAO>
sorry. had to.
A.Kelly

Jenn said...

LOL you are too funny.

Anonymous said...

Jenn

I too love your new attitude! - Like A Kelly said "it will sure help you in the long run, when you force yourself to see the good in things and situations, it soon becomes habit". So true.

Why live in the dark side like you know who? Why let any word define you? You define and mold yourself as you want to see your life happening, and it does not make you a "puppydogs and rainbows" person, it just separates you from bitter, negative and jeaulous people with real dark sided issues.

Jenn said...

:) Thank you.