I made a poll on here (found to the right under the about me section) to get a general opinion of what people think about how much a woman should do to conceive her own child. I'd really love to know what everyone thinks. It is anonymous so you can vote however you want to...go with what you truly believe.
The undecided option is there if you believe there are certain points to stop at. Whether it be fertility meds, IVF, or whatever. If you DO pick undecided, I'd love to know what your opinions are on that.
This isn't a poll for me to judge people, it's just a poll to help me understand what people think about the subject.
2 comments:
I voted undesided. I chose this because as a mother, I know the joy of motherhood, the experiance of childbirth and pregnancy, and I hope that every wanting/willing woman could experiance that very special time in her life too.
BUT when it breaks up the marriage with "baby obsession", breaks the bank because you can't afford the treatments, or totally consumes your life and alters friendships or other important relationships... I would say perhaps you need to re-evaluate your priorities.
I think someone young, in a stable marriage, with morals and a willing desire/drive WITH her husband to concieve a child has plenty of time before she crosses that line.
A woman who "waited" until she was about 40 (dangerous age imo) to have children, I think she should give up that dream a bit sooner...
I honestly have reservations about my opinion because I am not in that situation and although I have great empathy for those who are, what I think or feel is going to always be from the "other side" of the fence. I dont know the pain or emptyness or the drive. Yes I think there is a line, but I am sure that could be argued.
Oh. Snap. I'm an undecided!!!! I completely and utterly agree that if it starts to come between a marriage, enough is enough. Same goes for the money situation. I can tell you (as if anyone didn't know) I want a baby more than anything...but, I am absolutely NOT willing to let it ruin my marriage or let it put us in debt so bad Bill Gates couldn't save me. I guess I look at it as, I have a wonderful husband and, yes, a baby would make us both very happy, but, why chance ruining things for something that isn't going to happen. If you are on say your 4th IVF cycle and it still didn't work, that is a big emotional and financial drain. At that point you really do have to weigh out your priorities. It's either live happily child free or spend your life wasting money and causing undue stress and strain on an already wonderful situation. As horrible as this sounds, a baby may make both happy but it shouldn't be what you base your happiness on. I can't believe I'm undecided.
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